VISITS
If your difficult parent lives some distance away you need to accept in advance that you may have to stay over. If this sounds too much, ask a neighbour or relative if they could put you up. Alternatively you could try to book a room in a nearby pub.
Otherwise try to keep the visit as short as possible. In advance make sure you tell your horrid parent what time you need to leave. Have a proper plan that sounds genuine, for example that your teenager has to be elsewhere or you have some work to do.
During your visit try to ensure there are various activities that could shift a bad mood or atmosphere. As well as preparing food, clearing up and regular family traditions, you could suggest watching a particular TV programme or a dvd you have brought with you. You could go for a walk, offer to visit an elderly neighbour, or play a non-competitive game. Try to find a quiet space to retreat to if you feel over emotional or stressed.
You also need an escape plan, if things become really unpleasant. Check with your family that they agree that it is too much to handle and want to go home. Then calmly tell your horrid parent that you’re leaving as you are not prepared to stay for any more unpleasantness. You could thank her for any good Christmas moments so far.
MIXING CULTURES
Sometimes non-Christians like to incorporate some Christian traditions into their family life, even if it is just having a Christmas tree.
Be aware that although this could be welcome in some families but frowned on in others. .
